Once you know all about the flower girl, you can begin to pick you flower girl now! Then we are facing the age problem. Actually it’s not that complicated. Girls of all ages can participate in your wedding. All you need is different strategies for girls of different ages.
1. Infant/baby less than 18 months:
What if the ideal flower girl for your wedding is really really young- let’s say someone who cannot walk yet, a little baby actually? It’s OK, though she might not remember being a flower girl at your wedding when she’s growing up but it’s doesn’t mean she cannot take the role as a flower girl.
It’s actually very beautiful, almost fairytale-like and surprisingly easy in this situation, because you can prepare a little wagon for her. Decorate the wagon with flowers, veils and balloons, sit the baby flower girl in the wagon with the white soft cotton flower girl dresses and let the page boy pull the wagon down the aisle. It’s a beautiful sight even just thinking about it.
2. 2-3 years old flower girl
Now 2-3 years old flower girls can be a little tricky. Children of these ages can be a bit hard to control. So if the ideal flower girl is 2-3 years old, please prepare for the potential meltdowns and tantrums. They also need a lot of encouragement. So it’s best to have her parents leading them beside the aisle, and let someone she’s familiar with waiting her at the end of the aisle with a toy she really likes. In addition, you don’t want to let she wear a long flower girl dress, for she just learnt how to walk, she might be tripped over by the dress, following with all the screaming and crying. But think of it in another way, it’s kinda funny though, as long as you are not a perfectionist.
3. Flower girl between 3-5 years old.
If you are a perfectionist, then it is recommended that you pick someone who’s between 3-5 years old. They can walk down the aisle; they can scatter the petals – those are not the problems, the problem for flower girl between 3-5 year old is losing their focus. Once the most important job – petal-scattering is done, it cannot be guaranteed that they are just going to stay stand there nicely until the end of the ceremony. So prepare her for some little toys for her to play with during ceremony, or maybe just some funny cue bowtie on the flower girl dress.
4. Flower girl between 6-10 years old.
If you pick a 6-10 years old flower girl, congrats, they are safe from sabotaging your wedding with screaming or crying or running away or other unexpected behavior. They usually will do their job and happily go through the ceremony and keep the guests entertained as long as you prepare them in advance. Talk them through the process and in exchange with some rewards-let’s say a beautiful flower girl dress!
5. Girls over 10 year old
The age of a flower girl is usually under 10 years old. If the girl who’s really close to you and you really want to have her at your wedding you can make her a junior bridesmaid instead of a flower girl. Believe me, she will be more than rejoiced to be your junior bridesmaid with the even prettier junior bridesmaid dresses, the responsibility of some small tasks and the feeling of being treated like a little adult.
So the age of a flower girl, it’s not a big problem. All you need is some tricks and strategies accordingly: some toys or a beautiful flower girl dress. And don’t be worried if the little kids surprise you at the actual wedding day. It’ll be funny to think about it after many years and you say to them all grown up:” hey remember you crying at my wedding?”